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11 months ago ::
Aug 09, 2012 - 8:39PM
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Ok I have to vent about daddys family mainly...
I want ot have another shower for #2.. we just had our first in Spetember last year and had a crummy shower because his family didnt even want to throw one to begin with so the vibes and looks were just shutting me down. I just wanted it to end instead of enjoying the time of celebrating the arriaval of our beautiful baby girl.
I know its really close to have another child anyways but they are two sperate kiddos and I want to celebrate for both of them.. daddy hasnt ever been one to communicate with me to begin with its like hes still shoved up his moms ass (sorry just have to get it out before I blow up :/) he goes to her about anything he wants to say about me then I get a wonderful call form his mom saying "welcome to motherhood" ( ohh my god I just want to smack her in her face everythime) but there are a few thing that we could get help with for sure like another carseat diapers and clothes... thats mailny all im worried about but daddy doesnt understand and his mom will just throw a fit if I talk to her about it.. does any one have any suggestions?? cause I know for a fact we cant afford not to have a shower lol and I just want both of our famlies to celebrate our 2nd baby too!! is it just me???
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11 months ago ::
Aug 10, 2012 - 6:19PM
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I totally agree with you!! And Daddy needs to grow up and get a mind of his own, and stop getting his mom every situation... I think their is nothing wrong with you wanting to have a baby shower for your second child. Since it has only been 1 year since had your last child their should be some things that you still have and can re-use. If I were you I would still have one and make the best of it, because something is better than nothing.. Good Luck!!!
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11 months ago ::
Aug 12, 2012 - 6:13AM
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Sorry your other half is being an ass:( It sounds like he needs to grow up, stop running to his mommy and being such a little girl!!! I mean that in the nicest way possible;)lol Everyone has their own opinions of baby showers. Now days, everyone gets a shower for each kid. Why shouldn't you if you want one! I had two showers with my daughter(1st baby). Never got one with my second(a boy), we were stationed in Washington and both our families live in Hawaii. With this one, my in-laws want to have a shower and so does my husband but I don't! I feel it's a waste of time and money. The amount of money they would put into the party they could just give it to me and I can get what I need and want! Plus I don't want all the attention showers bring. The whole rubbing my belly, how you feeling, ready to have three kids, blah blah blah!!! Give me my gift and go home, so I can go home!!! I've thrown a few baby showers and they cost a lot. Prizes, games, food, decorations, center pieces, pamper cake, invitations, it goes on and on! I don't wanna sound rude but I just want them to give me the $1,000+ that they would have spent on my shower. That way I know what I'm getting and what I really need. Sorry, my hormones are getting the best of me;)lol Bottom line is if you want one, you should get one! I mean you only get your second kid ONCE! Heehehe!!! Again sorry your other half is making you feel like crap! Its ok to tell him to go to hell, its even ok to tell his mother that too! They'll get over it;)lol
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10 months ago ::
Sep 25, 2012 - 12:59PM
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I had a baby shower with my first child that is a girl almost 6 years ago. I am having a boy this time and unsure what to do for a baby shower. I know people are suppose to throw them for you but I don't think anyone is. I don't like to go to baby showers where people eat at different times, wait around staring at each other for the gifts to be open then leave. That seems boring to me but I don't want to be in charge of the games, ect at my own baby shower that I am suppose to be sitting around and enjoying. I don't want a akward baby shower. I sort of thought about having it after the baby is born so people can see the baby and he would be the center of attention but then again it will be cold, I will be pooped, and I don't want the little one to be exposed to any outside germ brought into my home. Just thought people would want to come see him after he is born anyways. PLEASE HELP! lol.
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10 months ago ::
Sep 25, 2012 - 1:15PM
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I like the idea to have a shower after baby is here.. but I agree with you one the coldness and germs too... I dont think anyone is going to throw a shower for us here so if i wan tone I would have to do it as well which sucks for sure the shower is supposed to be about and for mommy and baby to be.. not us getting up and taking care of the party.. :( where do you live lol we can throw a group shower haha.. that way its not just one getting up and down lol I have no idea though im still batteling with my mans family they are soo effin stupid.. his mom is sayin we dont even need one or shouldnt get one cause they are the same sex and are so close together.. well we still need the damn crib mom and a stroller if not those two things then at least more WINTER clothes for this baby that way we can put our money into the crob or stroller she just doesnt understand..
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10 months ago ::
Sep 25, 2012 - 7:48PM
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I used to be one of those that thought you should only have one baby shower. But my sister said something that made me change my thinking. Every baby is special, so every baby should be celebrated. It doesn't have to be a huge gigantic spending a ton of money ordeal, but a simple evening hanging with close friends and family. With some food and cake. That's my two cents anyway. Celebrate that baby, she or he and you deserve it. Haley
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10 months ago ::
Sep 25, 2012 - 8:39PM
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peanuut- Thank you... thats the way i feel completely!!!! every baby is special!! it doesnt matter if they are really close in age or not.. they are two seperate babies.. i know they are both girls and are going to be 15 months apart but they are both going to have different needs.. im not asking for ahuge party either i just want some family there to celebrate the arrival of our preciuos # 2 coming.. shoot even just an outing to mcdonalds would eb great and everyone could just bring diapers or wirpes for all i care as long as shes celebrated
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10 months ago ::
Sep 25, 2012 - 9:00PM
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I would tell your dh and his family exactly that then. Like I said, thinking of it in that way really changed my point of view. Yes baby showers typically are for giving gifts, but that's not all that's involved. Its a celebration for that baby to look back and see pictures of how excited everyone was for them to come into this world. Plus a party for mom to be celebrated for carrying a big pregnant belly and all that comes with it for 40 weeks. You could even just call it that a diaper party. Hey everyones got to eat. throw a little dinner together or just get everyone together for desserts one evening. No matter how much you got the first time around, you are always in need of a few new things. I hope they come around and you get to celebrate your new little princess. Let us know how it goes. Haley
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9 months ago ::
Sep 29, 2012 - 5:32PM
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I feel same but this is my first baby.but his mom driving me nuts.we been living with her and in different state even till baby born in Chicago.I need to vent also because she now staying down here supposedly .she don't even talk about our unborn daughter in good way besides her taking crap over phone saying they won't be able to do anything etc when I'm just happy to be a new mom to my daughter.my mom is so happy total opposite if his mom.my mom doing everything for sitter and paid.his mom didn't do anything and didn't even say she going to our baby shower! We were fine but she lazy and needs to stop using her grown soon as a crutch and let him live his own life.I love him with all my heart but his mom needs to let us be and happy.
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