Tasha, I haven't been through this so I can't give you advice from experience. I can only imagine how tough it is, but if it all possible make the divorce a routine, go through the motion sort of thing as much as possible, in that you need to keep your focus on the kids and school. That's your primary. Things are changing for the kids and you need to keep as much as your routine as possible. They'll feed off you and will need as much normalcy as you can provide. Its also a good idea to find a counselor for your older ones. Talk about it, let them know what's going on but in a negative way. I can't tell you how stressed my childhood was because I was constantly used as pawn between my parents and always hearing about the negatives in one another. I feel for ya girl and know you have tried all you can to make this work! Hang in there and keep a positive outlook for those boys. They need to know its going to be ok :) ((hugs))