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2 years ago ::
May 31, 2011 - 4:38PM
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Having trouble getting my son to do anything I want him to do. Naps, eating, bedtime, changing his diaper...etc. I need some help he throws the terrible tantrums and hits and bites and pinches.
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2 years ago ::
Jun 01, 2011 - 1:09PM
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I think it's the age because ours are all throwing tantrums too. I just put my foot down and dont give in to her. They need you to be strong and make these decision for them, because it is what is best for them and they dont have those skills yet. Put him in his crib and let him cry it out. My daughter cries for a minute until she realizes that she's staying in there and then she lays down and goes to sleep. I have to fight with my daughter to change her diaper but it has to get done. We are also having problems with her eating but she will not starve herself. What we did run into with her is that she only wants to eat what she wants to eat and if we let her do that, she would never get the nutrients that she needs. For example, she refuses chicken every time. She wants all of the side dishes or whatever else we are having, but not the chicken. To correct that, I give her the chicken first, and nothing else until she eats it. Sure, she throws a tantrum and dinner is usually kind of stressful until we break her will, but it's important so we do it. For smaller things, like a tantrum because I wont let her have the TV Remote, I either walk away from her and ignore the behavior, or I distract her with something else. Usually, though, I just walk away.
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2 years ago ::
Jun 01, 2011 - 2:02PM
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I agree with Megan, it's really the age. Just hang in there and stay strong. My son hits me sometimes when I pick him up to go change his diaper or put him in pjs. Usually, it's because he doesn't want to do that since I interrupted him doing something he thought was fun. I think it's all because right now they just can't communicate what they want, and it's so frustrating for them so they act out. Try to have patience and do your best to figure out what he wants, if it's something he can have. For hitting, I've just held his hands away from me, looked him in the eyes and told him in a calm but firm voice that we do NOT hit. It hurts and is not OK. Diaper changes can often be a battle, sometimes handing him something to play with helps, but he usually doesn't want to lay down and stop what he was doing. He'll fling himself around and cry. I try to ignore it but occasionally he will thrash around so much, I'm afraid he'll fling himself off the dresser we use to change him while I'm trying to hold him down. When he does this, I often have to get his attention but saying his name loudly, not yelling, but loud enough to get him to look at me. I have to again tell him that this is NOT OK, and we can go back to playing a lot faster if he will let me change his diaper. I would suggest trying different things, and finding what works for you. Good luck and remember, you're not alone in this.
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