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2 years ago ::
Feb 11, 2011 - 11:08AM
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Taking baby out without me? My fiancee and I had a discussion about him taking the baby to his mother's while I was out with some friends for a few hours. I told him I am not comfortable with that. There is a loooong story behind our situation but I will make it short. Baby was a surprise, he doesn't live with me yet, he has 3 kids from a previous marriage, we have had behavioral problems with his kids in my home in the past...there is so much more but I guess that would cover it for now.
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2 years ago ::
Feb 11, 2011 - 10:49PM
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For me, regardless of situation, if you're not comfortable, don't do it. Your baby, your decision...especially if you're bfing.
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2 years ago ::
Feb 12, 2011 - 4:25PM
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I agree. If you aren't comfortable you can't send your baby there. I have a similar situation with my sister in law and nephew, who live at my in-laws. SIL and my nephew are nuts, and my nephew is a very violent, nasty little boy and we rarely visit. My kids are not allowed there without me, and even when I go, it's very rare. It's sad, but I don't want my kids being bullied, and I don't want them picking up the violent, nasty things that my nephew does and my SIL allows. Good luck!
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2 years ago ::
Feb 13, 2011 - 4:05PM
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I'm sorry. I think he should consider your oppinion although I don't know what the issue is. But it's his baby too. I think that should be remembered.
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2 years ago ::
Feb 13, 2011 - 4:48PM
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It's really hard to make yourself "feel okay" about situations like that. I battled my own "don't do it" feelings when I left my first son at my in-laws' house overnight as a baby (starting at 5 months old). There was nothing wrong with it, I was just extremely uncomfortable with it. I did it because I felt like I should, that that was the "normal" thing to do. With my second baby (who is now 9 months old), I haven't left him for more than an hour or two, and am happier with my decision. Am I ready to scream at times because I don't get a break? Yes. But it's better than the constant "bad" feeling I used to get leading up to and during the overnight visits my older son had at the grandparents' house. Your baby is still really tiny, and if you're not comfortable leaving him/her (sorry I didn't pick that up from your post), then you have every right to make your feelings known. I'm not sure what all of the underlying issues are with your in-laws, but trust your gut and you won't go wrong.
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2 years ago ::
Feb 13, 2011 - 8:28PM
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Wow..I couldnt even imagine leaving my baby overnight anywhere..i dont care who its with! I dont know, maybe because she is my first baby..but NO way!! Anyway...arianuccio...i wouldnt take the baby! if you are not comfortable..why cant they come see you guys at your house, if they want to see the baby?
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