5 months ago ::
Feb 01, 2013 - 2:24PM
Hello Moms and Dads!
My name is Nicole. Came here for help :/
My only child, Joseph is 4 years old and hyperactive. He doesn't express his needs very well and has issues with social activity. He attends daycare and is recieving therapy there (occupational, speech and special instruction). I am told there that he does very well with following directions. Only twice the teachers discussed of his behavior. Not being complient with them... Once with picking up his toys and the other leaving the daycare. But he didn't have a tantrum.
The moment he "wants" something and if it's not complied he will have a fit... yelling and screaming "No No I said No... or Yes Yes I said Yes!"
This behavior esculated recently. 2 Scenarios:
At my parents house. He adores them... when it's time to go home goes into a major fit... last week was the first week that my parents had a difficult time bringing him home. They asked if we could pick him up... I've told him calmly it's time to go home. He screamed as I tried to put his shoes, coat and hat... it was a struggle... he wiggled, squirmed and held his arms down. Afterwards my husband scooped him up and carried him home down the street where we live.
Today at daycare.. the teachers told me he did very well.. the therapists even said he did well... except he didn't want to leave. And she asked me to go to the room to get him... usually they want me to wait outside because children are napping. When I entered the room... he was playing with toys...
I quietly said its time go home now... He said NO!!!! Nooo I said Nooo!! I was embarrased and felt bad for the children trying to nap. I scooped him up and carried him into the hallway... again I struggled to put his coat on.
At home... it's easier to deal with his behavior... I can ignore his tantrums most of the time. Until he does something bad... I warn him know not to do it again... he does it again and I put him on time out. Time outs also became more frequent here because he forgets easily... or perhaps he has a short attention span?
I've thought perhaps this type of behavior was because my parents really do spoil him. They give him whatever he wants. I've explained to my parents to not give in to all of his wants. They tell me they don't...however I seen it.. and they do.
His mood changes frequently. He get so fustrated and starts a major tantrum... then will calm down in a second as if nothing happened.
Will the time outs eventually work better? And how will I deal with his tantrums in public? Does he need to see a developmental pediatrician? Or behavior specialist? Am I doing something wrong?
Any advice???!!!! And thank you for any feedback!!
There is more I want to discuss... but different topics so I'll save them for another day... lol.