This is my first and I feel that I am alone in this pregnancy. My father is upset because I will be moving in May out to VW. My parents are divorced so I think its hurting my dad because I am moving closer to my mother and further away from him. She gets to see the baby more than he will and I understand that upsets him but this move was planned before I got pregnant.............

I don't know how to tell him that I would send him pictures and come to visit as often as I can when I can afford it. I am not moving away because of him and I have told him several times its to get away from an abusive ex. I live in fear every day that I stay in Minnesota.

Him and his wife are not being supportive. She keeps telling me its pregnancy and just deal with it. Or get use to it. It feels like she doesn't want to hear me talk about what I going through. Even one of my friends says she isn't supportive. I have no clue what I would do without my friend Crhisty. She's been there for me but doesn't live in town so I don't see her often.

How do you cope without having the support you want from love ones?

Thanks Tammy,

My mom isn't going to support me at all. I will find a job and be on my own. I am only going to live with her until I can find a place of my own since its a new state and I will have a new job and have to start over again.

 

I plan on paying rent and for my own food and gas and insurance for my own car so it will not be a free ride at all. They are just providing a room (much like my dad did) until I find my own apartment to live in.

He will not be supportive because he and his new wife feels that I am deliberately taking the baby away from them. They will not understand no matter how many times I told them that I do not feel safe living in the current state that I am with the ex around. The OFP comes off this summer and I am scared of the things that he might try to do to me. He made me miscarry our kid (no this isn't his) and I would hate to lose another one. Before I met him he assulted a pregnant lady I didn't know that until after he did it to me.

My mother is trying to be supportive. If I text her or call her about how I am feeling or my fears or if I break out in hives. She gives me advice. Not like the step mother who says "Its all apart of being pregnant get use to it!" I understand that but this is my first baby and I want to make sure I am doing things right. If there are things to ease morning sickness or get rid of hives I would like to know. She even told me that I didn't need to go to the ER for throwing up for over 24 hrs that there wasn't a thing they could do for me and to just go home! My mother would have told me to go into the ER if I felt they could help me since the doctor's office isn't open. I had to delete my step mom from my facebook because a friend of mine who is suppportive (I just don't see her offen) told me that she didn't like my step mom she wasn't supportive and was being mean to put it lightly.

Thanks. I will do what is right and safe for my baby because my baby matters and it needs a good mother that is willing to protect and love them.

Conney is right when it comes to support, you don't need negative support. It's not like anything they do or say is going to change the fact that you are having a baby. They can support you or step aside.

 

 

Thanks Connie and Tammy.

That brings up another question then who do I invite to my babyshower? If my father is not supportive would his family take his side and not want to show up to the baby shower? Do I invite them anyway and let them decline? Should I invite the step mother and her kids? I am having it early before I leave the state and I might have one when I move too. I want to send out the invites at the end of the month so they have about two months to decide.