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6 months ago ::
Nov 25, 2012 - 5:03PM
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i am a new mommy and am all excited but im already having some drama. My fiances mom found out when i did. I told her not to tell a soul because i had planned for it to be my christmas present suprise for everyone. well this thanxgivin i found out she told everyone and ruined my plan. now i have no intention of even do my christmas suprise. the only advantage i have on her is no one knowing the gender me or my fiance dsnt know either and we dnt want to till birth. so now she wants to tag along to an ultrasound to find out before ne of us do and im afraid shes goin to go around telling everyone and it will slip to me and my fiance before birth and ruin it for us... wat should i do that wont hurt her feelings but be blunt that i dnt like wat shes doin. i tried exspressing it to her on thanxgivin but i dnt think she understands how much it affected me.....HELP
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6 months ago ::
Nov 26, 2012 - 8:58AM
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As any hospital will tell you, they have to abide by the wishes of the mother (you). If you don't want to know the gender of the baby, then they can't tell anyone else, not even the father. If she really wants to tag along to an ultrasound, and you allow her to, then you just need to be clear that you are not finding out the gender. Sorry she ruined your announcement surprise!!
Christine Mom to: Jasmine(16), Kirsten(12), Ana(11), Catherine (1) 
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6 months ago ::
Nov 26, 2012 - 1:36PM
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Hi There Kaisa, It's so hard to keep a secret as exciting as this. I'm not trying to defend her, I'm just saying that finding out you are going to be a grandmother is one of lifes big deals. My own mother couldn't keep that secret if I paid her:) Now you know you just have to protect any secret like that. I think the best way to handle this is to let your fiance deal with it. Let your fiance know that you want that special time for just you and him. Let the ultrasound tech know in advance that you do not want to know the gender of the baby. If no one knows, no one will find out :) Don't let little things like that ruin a very special time in your life. By the way, congratulations! Tammy
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6 months ago ::
Nov 26, 2012 - 1:38PM
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By the way, Christine is right, be very clear about your wishes :)
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6 months ago ::
Nov 28, 2012 - 12:31AM
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I honestly think that it was wrong of her. I dont like to be rude to be or to hurt them, but sometimes you have to tell them how it is and show them a little tough love. Just tell her straight up that you dont want her to go. its really not fair to you or your finace. Talk to your finace about how his mom went against your wishes and he should talk to her as well. She might not like what she hears and she might be upset at first but she will get over it. After all she wouldnt like it if you went around ruining her wishes.
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