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3 years ago ::
Oct 05, 2010 - 3:26PM
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What is the best way for my 7 year old son to deal with a bully on the bus?
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3 years ago ::
Oct 08, 2010 - 8:57PM
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The first step would be to report the bullying to the bus driver. If that didn't help, I'd go to the school principal who should at least be able to direct me to the right person. I hope your son is okay.
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3 years ago ::
Oct 10, 2010 - 10:57AM
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I went through this with DD. The first thing we did was have her yell loudly for the boy to stop what he was doing and leave her alone. We also told he to sit near the front where the bus driver could be more aware of what was going on. This got the drivers attention and it workd for a while. This year another boy on the bus kept asking her for a kiss - on the lips (DD is only 6) and when she said no, the boy hit her realy hard on the head. One of the other kids told the bus driver what happened because DD was crying and I sent a note to her teacher. DD is in a 1 & 2 split class and this boy was a grade 2 kid in her class. The teacher taked to both kids and also let the principal and vice principal know what happened. It was decided that if there was still a problem that they would have assigned seating. So far things have been ok.
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3 years ago ::
Oct 15, 2010 - 4:10PM
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I agree with others. start with the bus driver and have her sit as close as she can to the front. And do let the school know as well.
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3 years ago ::
Oct 18, 2010 - 1:54PM
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Nancy, I like that little reds had daughter yell loud for the bully to stop. I also think that this can turn into a big problem and the bully needs to get into trouble. Maybe if the bully wasn't allowed to take the bus the parents would be a little more involved in what their child is doing. I am a firm believer in zero tolerance for bullies! I would go to the principle and ask what is being done about it. I would also ask if the bullies parents have been notified. It's something that needs to be taken seriously. If my son treated a girl like that he would find himself with nothing but essentials. I would take away every privilege and leave him with a mattress on the floor. I am so upset to hear that your little girl has to deal with this. There is usually a school psychiatrist as well as a school councilor that might be helpful to talk to.
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3 years ago ::
Oct 18, 2010 - 4:35PM
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Omg.. how sad that our kids need to deal with this "Bullying" issue at such a young age, my dd is going thru that a lot too.. in some instances, in a severe matter, just recently.. she told me a child (younger) who was gettin picked on by an older child, got on the bus, and started beating the older child with a book.. or his back pack... cuz, he got sick of it alredy.. and any child that says anything rude, or does something rude, or hits another child needs to reported to the school right away.. so that a note will go out to the parents, and the bus driver can keep a log of what is being done to that child and report those incidents.. even have ur child do it.. cuz that is what I told my dd to do.. make a note.. of who..does, and who she told.. so that it is alll written down.. and there is a tracking log.. of some sort..
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3 years ago ::
Oct 18, 2010 - 4:54PM
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My mother has been a bus driver for 24 years- I as a mother personally do not think you should start or stop at just the bus driver-I believe you should tell all school officials about the bully and the bus driver so that everyone is aware of that students aggression and behavior-the parents should be contacted if it is physical or continues after the notification. The bully needs to be addressed and warned-if it continues- parents....if it continues - take your kid to karate and challenge the bully in front of as many students as possible- most bullies have insecurities and will not act.
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3 years ago ::
Oct 19, 2010 - 12:28PM
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Thank you all! I told the bus driver about the situation & my son is setting in the front of the bus. I saw the bully with his dad at the local grocery store and decided that I should let him know about what is going on as well. Both boys have talked with the school counselor seperately. Nancy
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3 years ago ::
Oct 22, 2010 - 1:19AM
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i had helped an 8 year old with the same thing about 5 years ago. I told him...
If there isnt an adult around make sure your near someone or can get to someone that is a little older than you and ask for help. and to my dismay it didnt work. so i went out and bought a recording deivice and gave it to him to discreatly record the bully. i got him really into it by telling him to pretend like he was a spy. and..........IT REALLLYY worked. the bully was in a lot of trouble and never picked on Cameron again. he still thanks me for it
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3 years ago ::
Oct 24, 2010 - 6:27PM
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I am an elementary school counselor and see this often. One way to "bully proof" your child is to practice or model different bullying scenarios. Teach your child to 1) look the bully straight in the eye, 2) don't cry, comply or deny it's happening 3) use a strong, not angry voice 4) use the "I message"...." (name of bully), I don't want you to (bullying action) again. It makes me feel (angry, sad, etc). I want you to STOP NOW." Teach them assertiveness, not aggressiveness. It's like riding a bike...they need to PRACTICE so that it comes easier when they need it. :) Good luck.
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